Anyway, I'd love to get lots of fun ideas to show them I love them... because honestly, there are a lot of days when there isn't a lot of love flowing in our house.
The thing I've found to show love is to say yes, whenever I can. It's a knee-jerk reaction to say no to pretty much anything they ask. Mom can I go hang out with my friend. No. Mom, can I get on the computer. No. Mom can I go practice basketball. No. See how easy it is? It's my go-to answer to pretty much anything. I've been trying lately to think before I answer, because if the answer is no, I want my kids to know that it was an "educated" decision, and there's a reason. They deserve that, especially when they're at the age where I expect them to make their own decisions the same way, right?
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I think that applies to little kids as much as big kids. Mom, can I have some juice? No. Mom, can I play outside? No. Mom, can I paint? No. The only difference is that my kids don't understand the reason- when there is one- and so they keep asking every 5 minutes anyway. :)
Oh Mindy, you're so wise. I'd never thought about things quite this way, and since I've been pretty (physically) miserable, my knee jerk "no's" have come up quite a bit. My poor kids! We'll have to do something special after school today!
I dread the day of four teenage girls at once! But I love the idea to think about it and say yes when I can.
I have this same problem and have often thought about trying to switch it around to saying yes more often. I think it makes a difference, it is positive.
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